On a daily basis, we are constantly overcoming our fears to reach our goals. Depending on what your goal is, those fears can feel like they’re crushing you. It’s pretty dang hard to accomplish anything when you’re always freaked out. One of the biggest fears that we have that can hold us back is the impostor syndrome.
What is impostor syndrome?
Have you ever been so excited about something that you’re literally bouncing out of your seat? Maybe you finally figured out what you want to do with your life and can’t wait to get started. You’re so pumped up until you get this nagging little feeling in the back of your head. It starts off as a whisper asking you, “Are you sure that’s something that YOU can actually do?”
At first, you brush it off, but it keeps coming back even louder and with increasingly negative thoughts. After a while, your excitement is completely gone and you’re left with a whole bunch of negative thoughts:
- Who am I to think I can do this?
- What do I really have to offer the world?
- I’m probably just a fraud and people are going to see right through me.
- What if I’m not good enough?
- What do I have to contribute? Somebody else has already covered it.
That is the impostor syndrome. You’re constantly second-guessing and doubting your authority, knowledge, capability, and yourself overall. You might feel like you’re the only one who goes through this, but I can promise that EVERYONE does, even those people that you least expect. I was listening to a podcast recently that was talking about Beyonce dealing with the impostor syndrome. Do a quick Google search and you will find experts and professionals all over the place dealing with it. It happens to everyone.
It’s all in your head!
Just like most other fears, all of those negative little things your feeling are all in your head. You can discredit any one of them pretty easily. I won’t lie by saying that everyone is going to fall madly in love with you or what you’re putting out there. There are going to be people who don’t like you or your stuff, but they’re going to be in the minority and aren’t the people you want in your life or your business anyway. It’s totally okay. You’ve got to be able to brush it off and move on. Dwelling on the negativity is just going to reinforce all of that negative crap you’re thinking.
How the impostor syndrome is holding you back
Well, this is pretty simple. When you get those negative thoughts and feelings, you’re allowing it to take over. You tend to get into bad habits and have the “I’ll just do it tomorrow” attitude. What happens is you end up saying that every day and instead spend your time binge-watching your favorite shows or finding things to help you procrastinate. Don’t get me wrong, I love a good Netflix binger (and have them probably too often LOL), but that’s not getting you closer to your goals. Am I right?
Allowing the impostor syndrome to take over your actions is ultimately holding you back from your potential. You have so much to offer and listening to those nagging thoughts is just a waste. You let opportunities slip through your fingers because you think you aren’t good enough or that someone has done it before you. Regardless of what it is you’re trying to do, you have a unique perspective and something that only you can offer. Don’t let opportunities pass you by because you are hung up on the self-doubt and fear. That will only lead to regret.
Stay tuned for a few tips and tricks to overcome the impostor syndrome in our next blog post! You can subscribe to be notified and get even more content through our newsletter.