Fear is something that every single one of us experiences throughout our life. It could be as simple as fearing the spider on your ceiling, or it can be as monumental as fearing changes that you need to make to live your best life. Whatever it is, we all experience it. It’s what keeps us alive and going. Sometimes fear holds us back from achieving our goals and dreams. You have to embrace fear so that you can move through it and achieve your goals.
Why do you need to embrace fear?
How many times have you been so afraid to do something, that you just plain didn’t do it? How did you feel afterward? In my experience, letting fear defeat you is only going to leave you with regrets. You’re going to be left wondering what could have happened if you had just overcome that fear.
What happens when you actually do embrace fear? Depending on the level and kind of fear you’re feeling, it can definitely be a thrilling feeling. Your heart is probably racing, and you’ll probably be left feeling on top of the world and a heck of a lot more confident. (Okay, so this doesn’t really apply to the fear of creepy crawlies…LOL) Not only that, but odds are you’re going to need to push through the fear to achieve most of your goals. Fear is just a natural part of life and if you let it win, then you’re never going to reach your potential.
Change, the biggest fear of all.
Even if you don’t admit it out loud, you’re probably afraid of change on some level. Most of us get so comfortable with our lives that we don’t want it to change. But, change is the only way that you will continue to grow. Sure, it can be uncomfortable, but most great things are at first. Don’t be afraid to take charge and make the necessary changes for your life.
When you’re facing change in your career, most of the time the change is going to be for the better. When I worked in banking, I faced change on a pretty regular basis. Throughout my time there, I received many promotions which led to not only change in my role but also change in my overall environment. In order to keep moving forward in my career, I had to move branches and meet new people. I also learned to work through diversity and overcome obstacles with team members. Through these changes, my professional skills also grew. I used to hate speaking in groups or in front of people. While doing a presentation in front of people still isn’t my favorite activity, I’ve learned to embrace fear to overcome. It’s made me a better businesswoman and has set me up with the skills I need to be successful in my current adventures. Change is necessary!
How can you embrace fear?
- Step one is to understand that fear is a necessary part of life. The only way you can grow in any aspect of your life is to embrace fear and keep pushing forward.
- Step two is to identify why you have the fear. Is it because you’re comfortable with how things are? Is it because something could go wrong if you choose to move forward? Are you afraid of the unknown?
- Step three is to compare what would happen if you embraced the fear and moved forward, versus letting the fear defeat you. What do you stand to gain? What could you lose? Does one outweigh the other?
- Step four is to not be afraid to take chances. What is the worst thing that could possibly happen by doing something even though you’re afraid? (**Disclaimer: if the thing you fear is dangerous in any way, then you might want to really take time to think about it**)
- Step five is to JUST DO IT! Take the leap! Have faith that everything will work out. The great thing about life is that you have more chances. If you embrace your fear and start a new business but it doesn’t work out, you get to try something else.
How does embracing your fears help you achieve your goals?
One of the larger goals that I set for myself this year was to finally write a book. This is something that I’ve dreamed about for many years, but never really got around to doing. When I finally decided that 2017 would be the year I would finally do it, so many thoughts and fears crossed my mind. What if I write this book that I love and people don’t like it? OH MY GOD, what if Stephen King reads it and thinks it’s trash?? :O LOL What if I can’t even get it published? If by chance people did love it, my lifestyle would probably need to change. I’d have to go out and advertise, do signings, meet a lot of people. As an introvert, I can tell you that I prefer staying in and enjoying the quiet comforts of home, so it definitely scared me to think that I might not be able to do that as frequently.
On the other side of things, I thought about the positives. What if I did get published and people loved it? I’d be able to have that sense of accomplishment and importance that everyone wants to feel. What if I was successful, which led to me living one of my lifelong dreams of being an author? Would I get to meet and connect with some of the authors that I look up to? Would I be able to continue writing every day and publish more?
So, what do you think I did? I started writing. I’m not close to being finished yet, but I’m working on it. The same thing goes for every other goal. You’re always going to think of something that you fear. The key is to embrace fear and push through. Don’t let it hold you back from achieving your wildest dreams. If you do, you won’t be able to find that sense of accomplishment and achievement that you want. You will only end up with regrets.
What fears are you facing right now? Have you let fear win in the past? What was the outcome?